1. Firstly identify the pattern or behaviour that you wish to change

2. Establish communication with the part of your unconscious mind that generates the behaviour. Go inside ask the following question to yourself, reminding alertly passive to detect and report any changes in body sensations, visual images, or sounds that occur as a response to your questions. The question is, ” will the part of me that generates behaviour x be willing to communicate with me in consciousness?”

Now ask that part x, we’ll call it part x to intensify that signal when it wants to communicate yes, and to diminish it when it wants to communicate no.. so that you can distinguish between the two responses.

3. Separate intention from behaviour. Thank the part for its willingness to cooperate with you. Now ask if it would be willing to let you know what it’s been trying to do for you by generating behavior x. As you ask that question, once again be alert to detect a yes or no response. Take not of what benefits this behaviour has provided for you in the past and then thank that part of your for maintaining these important benefits to you.

4. Creating alternative behaviours to satisfy intention. Now go inside and contact the most creative part of you and ask it to generate three alternative behaviours that are just as good if not better than x for satisfying the intention of the part we’ve been communicating with. Have your creative part signal you with a yes signal when it has generated the three new behaviours…Now ask the creative part if it would be willing to reveal to you what the three new behaviours are.

5. Have part x accept the new choices and the responsibility for generating them when needed. Now ask part x if the three new behaviours are at least as effective as behaviour x. Now ask part x if it’s willing to accept responsibility for generating the new behaviours in appropriate situations when its intention needs to be fulfilled.

6. Make an ecological check. Now go inside and ask if there are any parts that object to the negotiations that have just taken place or if all parts agree to support you. Then step into the future and imagine a situation that would have triggered the old behaviour, and experience using another one of your new choices.

If you get a signal that other parts object to these new choices, you must start from the beginning, identify which part is objecting, what benefits it’s been giving you in the past, and have it work with part x to generate new choices that would maintain the benefits it’s always given you and also provide you a new set of choices. It may sound a bit weird to talk about speaking to parts of your self, but this is a basic hypnotic pattern that has been found quite useful by people like doctors Erickson, Bandler, and Grinder.

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5 Steps to positive thinking:

1. Develop the habit of positive thinking- Go on a mental diet. Don’t allow yourself to hold a negative thought. If one occurs, let go of it and think of a positive solution to the problems & challenges that you have to handle in your life. Do this for 7 DAYS. Notice what you do have instead of what you don’t have.

2. Decide right now to become curious instead of judgemental. When you start judging other people, your also judging yourself. If your angry at someone, there is a good chance you are angry at yourself. Realise there could be other reasons for peoples behaviours. Be curious of why people act as they do.

3. Find something to appreciate in every situation. Realize that even the seemingly negative experiences in your life can give you the resources you need to achieve your goals and dreams. It can build the character that will enable you to have a more fulfilling life. Use negative thinking to your advantage. Take time out when you are having problems. Appreciate what you love about a situation, then ask what are you missing out on by being in this situation, what isn’t good. Use critical thinking. Allow this pain to motivate you to decide what’s most important in your life. Ask questions about what isn’t working in your life. Appreciate what isn’t working.

4. Decide not to be perfect. If you are focusing on being perfect constantly, you are always going to notice what’s not right in your life. Realize that it’s okay to mess up or not follow through. Notice when you are not on track you correct it and get better. Learn and expand, make new decisions to empower your life.

5. Develop the habit of using FAITH, the power to believe! Create certainty inside yourself. Sometimes when everything looks like it’s going pear shaped this is the only power you have. Have courage, put yourself on the line. Remember you have made it through all the challenges of your past, have faith you can make it through any challenges that crop up in your future. Faith is the ultimate power to create your reality.